Eleanor R.

Do you trust what you know? Your Inner BFF does!

Your Inner BFF does!

You are capable of amazing things.

Hey Bestie!

I often work with clients who struggle with trusting themselves. They might doubt their abilities or feel like they need constant validation from others to feel confident in their decisions. But the truth is, self-trust is crucial for personal growth and success. I want to share my perspective on why self-trust is important, and how you can start developing it.

First, what does self-trust really mean? At its core, self-trust is the belief in your own abilities, intuition, and judgment. It means that you have confidence in your own knowledge and don’t need constant reassurance from others to make decisions or take action. When you trust yourself, you’re more likely to take risks and pursue your goals without fear of failure or judgment.

So why is self-trust so important? For one, it’s essential for personal growth and development. When you trust yourself, you’re able to make decisions that align with your values and goals, rather than being swayed by others’ opinions or expectations. This can lead to greater self-awareness and a stronger sense of purpose.

Self-trust is also important for building healthy relationships. When you trust yourself, you’re able to set boundaries and communicate your needs effectively, which can lead to more fulfilling connections with others. Conversely, when you don’t trust yourself, you might feel anxious or unsure in social situations, which can lead to strained or unhealthy relationships.

But building self-trust isn’t always easy. Many of us have been conditioned to doubt ourselves or seek external validation, whether through social media likes or praise from others. So how can you start developing self-trust in your own life?

The first step is to slow down and listen to your inner voice. We all have a voice inside us that tells us what we need, what we want, and what we should do. I like to call this voice, your inner BFF. But often, we’re too busy or too distracted to hear it. Think about this, your BFF is your partner in crime, your ride or die, your hype girl and biggest fan. She wants what is best for you and is always looking out for you. She cares for you so deeply that even when you are dismissing her sound energy (or great advice), she never leaves you, but her voice does get quieter making it more difficult to hear.  

Here are 6 ways to tap into your inner BFF:

  1. Practice mindfulness: So take some time to sit quietly, breathe deeply, and listen to what your intuition is telling you. Mindfulness is about being present in the moment, without judgment or distraction. When you practice mindfulness, you’re better able to tune into your own thoughts, feelings, and intuition. Take a few minutes each day to sit quietly and focus on your breath. Notice any thoughts or feelings that arise, and try to observe them without judgment.
  2. The next step is to learn to distinguish between your intuition and your fears. I call this voice, our inner mean girl. Sometimes, we mistake our fears for intuition, and we make decisions that aren’t in our best interests. But if you can learn to recognize when you’re acting out of fear and when you’re acting out of intuition, you’ll be able to make better choices.
  3. Another important step is to align your actions with your values. When you know what’s important to you and you make decisions that are in alignment with those values, you’ll feel more confident and empowered. So take some time to figure out what your core values are, and then make sure that your decisions and actions reflect them.
  4. It’s also important to practice self-compassion. We all make mistakes, and it’s okay to not always know the answer. Instead of beating yourself up for not knowing what to do, give yourself permission to be imperfect and trust that you’ll figure it out in time.
  5. Honor your commitments to yourself.  We wouldn’t dream of breaking a commitment or promise to a friend or colleague. Don’t you deserve the same respect? When you show up for yourself, you are strengthening your self-trust muscles. Most of us were raised to believe that keeping one’s word is a sign of good character. So look at this way, keep your word to yourself and that word becomes worthy of your trust.
  6. Finally, surround yourself with people who support and encourage you to trust yourself. When you’re surrounded by people who believe in you and your abilities, it’s easier to believe in yourself. Having a supportive network of friends, family, or a life coach who believe in you can make all the difference. These are the people who encourage and support you, and who help you stay focused on your goals.

Developing self-trust is a process. It takes time and practice to learn to trust yourself fully. But the more you practice, the more confident and empowered you’ll feel. Trusting what you know isn’t always easy, but it’s an important part of living a fulfilling and authentic life. Remember, you have all the wisdom and guidance you need inside of you – you just have to learn to listen to it.

As a life coach, it’s my mission to help my clients cultivate their self-trust and other aspects of self-love to achieve their full potential. If you’re struggling with self-trust, I’m here to help. We can work together to build a stronger sense of self-confidence and inner wisdom. 

Hugs & High Fives, 

Yoli, the Self-Love Shutterbug

Eleanor R.

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